Swahili Fire

Jinsi ya Kuzungumza na Mpenzi Wako Aliyekasirika Part I

2011-12-22T11:44:00.001-08:00

Kwenye mapenzi kuna nyakati za kutofautiana, kukasirishana. Katika hali ya kawada kipindi hiki huwa ni cha hatari kwa sababu husababisha nyufa kubwa za uhusiano na kulifanya penzi kukosa ladha.

Sote tunajua, watu hupigana, huachana, hujeruhiana, hutukanana, hudhalilishana wakiwa na hasira. Hata hivyo si wote wanaojua wafanye nini wanapojikuta wameingia kwenye hatua hiyo mbaya.
Msomaji wangu, hebu jaribu kukumbuka ugomvi mmoja uliotokea kati yako na mpenzi wako na ikiwezekana jikumbushe mlivyoanza! Utabaini kuwa mlianza kama utani na mkajikuta mmefura kwa hasira, mkatwangana makonde, mkatamkiana maneno makali ya kuudhi na pengine mkaamua kuachana.
Yote hii ni kwa sababu mlikosa elimu ya mazungumzo. Ingekuwa mmoja wenu hasa yule aliyekuwa wa pili kukasirika anafahamu hatua za kuzungumza na mtu aliyekasirika angechukua jukumu la kutuliza machafuko na kuleta amani kwenye mapenzi. Tazama hatua tano za kuzungumza na mpenzi aliyekasirika.

MPUNGUZE MHEMKO

Hasira hujaza kifua, huathiri mzunguko wa damu na ufahamu. Mtu aliyekasirika huwa vigumu kwake kusikiliza au kutazama mambo kwa jicho la tatu. Mwenye hasira huwa hafikirii matokea yajayo badala yake hutazama zaidi tukio na jinsi ya kupata ushindi iwe kwa maneno au kwa mapambano.
Katika hali ya namna hiyo, mtu mwingine akija na busara za kutaka kumgeuza haraka haraka hawezi kumuelewa. Muhimu hapo ni kuacha kumwadama, kujibizana naye, kumshawishi asikilize badala yake mpe nafasi ya kusema atakavyo, abwate ajuavyo huku wewe ukimuitikia na kumkubalia lawama zake. “Basi mpenzi mwenye makosa ni mimi.” Kauli za aina hii zitampunguza hasira kwani atajiona msindi.

Soma Jinsi ya Kuzungumza na Mpenzi Wako Aliyekasirika Part II

Jinsi ya Kuzungumza na Mpenzi Wako Aliyekasirika Part II

2011-12-22T11:26:00.000-08:00

MSOME SAIKOLOJIA YAKE

Kwa kuwa unamfahamu mpenzi wako kwa kina itakuwa rahisi kwako kumtambua kuwa amepunguza hasira na kurudi katika hali yake ya kawaida. Ukisha fahamu hilo chukua jukumu la kumsoma kisaikojia ili kujua kama yuko kwenye hali nzuri ya kusikiliza yale uliyotaka kumwambia wakati alipokuwa na hasira.
Zoezi hili linaweza kuchukua saa kadhaa na wakati mwingine hata siku mbili. Lengo ni nini? Ni kupata matokeo sahihi ya kuondoa chuki za mwenza wako na kumfundisha madhara ya kukasirika kwenye uhusiano wenu wa kimapenzi. “J, nakupenda sana, lakini juzi uliniumiza, uliniambia mimi malaya kwa kosa ambalo sikufanya?” Bila shaka muda huo atakusikiliza zaidi kuliko ungebishana naye alipokuwa na hasira.

MRUHUSU AKUJIBU

Pamoja na kumsoma kisaikojia na kumwambia kinagaubaga makosa yake, usimzuie kujitetea, mpe nafasi ya kuzungumzia kilichomkasirisha. “Unaona bado unanitukana, sasa naamini siku ile ulikuwa umedhamilia.” Usisiseme hivyo, mwache ajibu hoja hata kama atakuwa anakukandamiza na kuzidi kujijengea ushindi. Mvumilie aoshe ubongo wake.

EPUKA MARUMBANO

Kama nilivyosema kwenye hapo juu, wapenzi wengine huwa wagumu kuelewa, ni watu wa kuficha udhaifu wao na kutopenda kuonekana wamekosea. Watu wa namna hii unapowarejeshea mazungumzo wanaweza kujikuta wanahamaki tena.
“Kwa hiyo ulikuwa unasemaje…nilifanya ndiyo,… wewe unaamuaje?” Mkifika kwenye alama hiyo usikubali kurumabana naye mwache aseme halafu wewe ingia kwenye hatua ya tano.

MUOMBE MSAMAHA

Hata kama atakuwa yeye ndiye mwenye makosa na amekataa kukiri, usijali, chukua jukumu la kumuomba msamaha na kueleza tena nia yako ya kumazungumzo ilikuwa ni kuelewana si kugombana. Kumbuka hata kama amekiri kosa, bado unatakiwa kumuomba radhi kwa kurejea yaliyopita. “Mpenzi inawezekana nikawa nimekuudhi kwa niliyosema, nakuomba sana tusameheane.”
Bila shaka kwa haya machache msomaji wangu utakuwa umejifunza na kuchukua hatua za kuzuia migogoro mikubwa inayotokana na hasira za mpenzi wako. Leo niishie hapa, nikushukuu kwa kunisoma.

Soma

Jinsi ya Kuzungumza na Mpenzi Wako Aliyekasirika Part I

From: http://richmanyota.blogspot.com/2011/05/hatua-5-za-kuzungumza-na-mpenzi-wako.html

Siri Za Ngono

2011-07-28T13:33:00.001-07:00

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2010-06-18T06:06:00.000-07:00

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Motivate Yourself IV

2009-09-30T04:34:00.001-07:00

"Square your shoulders to the world, be not the kind to quit; It's not
the load that weighs your down but the way you carry it." – Anonymous.

"Accept everything about yourself. I mean everything. You are you, and
that is the beginning and the end; No apologies, no regrets." – Clark
Montanas.

"If you believe in yourself, things are possible." – Shannon Macmillan.

"The biggest mistake you can make is continually fearing you will make
one." – Anonymous.

"If you want to accomplish anything in life, you can't just sit back
and hope it will happen. You've got to make it happen." – Chuck
Norris.

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Motivate Yourself III

2009-09-30T04:33:00.001-07:00

"The abundant life does not come to those who have had a lot of
obstacles removed from their path by others. It develops from within
and is rooted in strong mental and moral fiber."- William Mather
Lewis.

"Courage is about doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no
courage unless you're scared" – Eddie Rickenbacker.

"One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself,
know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go." –
Sheila Murray Bethel.

"For every person who doubts you, tells you you will fail, try twice
as hard to prove them wrong." – Anonymous.

"Above all, challenge yourself. You may well surprise yourself at what
strengths you have, what you can accomplish." – Cecile Springer.

Don't' let the low times keep you down. Learn from them and reach for
the high times." – David Wiemers.

"Being committed to some goal in your life – a sense of having a
mission, a purpose, even a calling – is a very motivating, very
comforting thing. Some people's mission steps up to greet them, others
have to hunt theirs down." –

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Motivate Yourself II

2009-09-30T03:44:00.001-07:00

"People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that
they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the
first secret of success." - Norman Vincent Peale

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you
have imagined."- Henry David Thoreau

"If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed."-
David Viscott.

"Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning."-
Winston Churchill

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole
staircase, just take the first step." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

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Success Quotes III

2009-09-30T03:29:00.001-07:00

"There is only one success--to be able to spend your life in your own
way." - Christopher Morley

"Success is focusing the full power of all you are on what you have a
burning desire to achieve." - Wilfred Peterson

"Success comes in cans; failure in can'ts" - Unknown Author

"The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack
of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will." -
Vince Lombardi

"Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the
doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a
personal standard, reaching for the highest that is in us, becoming
all that we can be." - Zig Ziglar

"The road to success is always under construction" Lily Tomlin

"Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation,
perspiration and inspiration." - Evan Esar

"For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why
not me? Why not now?" - James Allen

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Success Quotes II

2009-09-30T03:28:00.001-07:00

"Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect.
There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect
conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you
will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more
self-confident and more and more successful." - Mark Victor Hansen

"Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition
you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained
the struggle against overwhelming odds." - Orison Swett Marden

"Keep steadily before you the fact that all true success depends at
last upon yourself." - Theodore T. Hunger

"You are the embodiment of the information you choose to accept and
act upon. To change your circumstances you need to change your
thinking and subsequent actions." - Adlin Sinclair

"The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a
captive of the environment in which you first find yourself." - Mark
Caine

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." -
Robert Collier

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
If you love what you are doing, you will be successful." - Herman Cain

"The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief
in a thing makes it happen." - Frank Loyd Wright

"You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play
better than anyone else." - Albert Einstein

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Success Quotes I

2009-09-30T03:27:00.001-07:00

Success Quotes

Success has different connotations for different people. While for
some it may mean making lots of money, to others it could mean
achieving one's goals in life, and for still others, it is about
fulfilling one's potential. No matter how one may define success, one
of the best ways to keep oneself on track is reading the success
quotes written by some of the best thinkers and successful people in
the world. Given below are some of the most profound success quotes,
which can keep one motivated to strive to achieve it.

"Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream
of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part
of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea
alone. This is the way to success, that is the way great spiritual
giants are produced." - Swami Vivekananda

"Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you
know you can lose." - Tom Crause

"The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure." Sven Goran Eriksson

"Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right
time." - Arnold H. Glasgow

"They can because they think they can." - Virgil

"Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to
become the person you believe you were meant to be." - George Sheehan

"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from
achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong
mental attitude." - Thomas Jefferson

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Humorous Quotes on Love-Relationships

2009-09-30T03:22:00.001-07:00

Humorous Quotes on Love/Relationships:

"Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love."
- Albert Einstein

"I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That
must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste." - David Bissonette

"What the world really needs is more love and less paper work." - Pearl Bailey

"You can't put a price tag on love, but you can on all its
accessories." - Melanie Clark

"Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to
his success." - Jim Backus

"I told my wife the truth. I told her I was seeing a psychiatrist.
Then she told me the truth: that she was seeing a psychiatrist, two
plumbers, and a bartender." - Rodney Dangerfield

"I've often wanted to drown my troubles, but I can't get my wife to go
swimming." - Jimmy Carter

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2009-09-29T05:59:00.001-07:00

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